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Comportement et discipline   Aider son enfant à développer confiance en soi-même |29 January 2022

Comportement et discipline     Aider son enfant à développer confiance en soi-même

Avec la pandémie, beaucoup de parents ont remarqué un changement de caractère de leur enfant. Rester à la maison pendant longtemps, l’école en ligne n’ont pas aidé dans ce sens. Beaucoup d’enfants sont timides et ne sont pas confortables avec les autres. Il y a eu une dépendance sur les appareils électroniques et les enfants manquent de concentration.

Mais que pouvez-vous faire en tant que parent pour leur redonner confiance en eux-mêmes ? Très tôt, vous pouvez aider votre enfant à développer sa confiance en lui. Cela est important, car un enfant qui a confiance en lui croit en ses capacités de réussir.

La confiance en soi fait référence au fait de croire en ses capacités. C’est une sécurité intérieure qui permet de croire que l’on peut réussir ou rebondir en cas d’échec.

La confiance aide l’enfant à faire face à des situations de la vie et aussi à prendre des risques. Cela l’aidera à mieux se développer, s’apprécier et développer ses compétences.

Lorsqu’un enfant fait des choses par lui-même, il est fier de lui et développe sa confiance. Or, certains parents ont tendance à faire les choses à la place de leur enfant et à le surprotéger pour lui éviter de vivre des difficultés. Cette façon de faire ne lui permet pas d’être fier de ses réussites et nuit au développement de sa confiance.

La contribution du Conseil National pour les Enfants parle sur comment aider nos enfants à gagner confiance en soi.

 

Vidya Gappy

 

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How to empower your kids

 

Every parent wants what is best for his or her children. They wish to see them grow up confident and most of all happy and successful in whatever they do. In order for children to be just that, parents must empower them using some of the following tips:

 

1) Let them choose

Teach children to think and choose for themselves as early as possible, for you will not always be there to help them. Life is full of choices and decisions and when opportunities arise, children must be able to take full advantage of them. A good way to teach children this important skill is to let them make their own choices whenever possible, with your guidance of course. For example, instead of stating ‘This is good for you’ you should give them a choice by asking ‘Do you like this?’ By letting them share their opinions, give feedbacks and suggestions, you are building their self-esteem and giving them more control over their choices. The choice-making skills you teach your children today will be something they will apply to all other opportunities that they will be given as they grow up.

  

2) Let them talk

Apart from participating in some decisions, children also want to be heard and listened to. There is nothing more reassuring to them than knowing you will listen to their views and their feelings. Show that you are truly interested in what they have to say – even if it is the most mediocre of ideas or topics. By providing an open channel of communication to your child and vice versa, they will feel confident to tell you other things, especially as they get older. Remember that some of their opinions might not be on par with yours, but that does not matter, for no two human beings are the same. Resist the urge to get angry, to express your worries, or to try to fix everything. Let them talk and simply listen. By practising active listening you will learn many things about your children, especially as they interact with other members of the family, their friends, and other people that you do not know personally.

 

3) Let them take risks

We all learn by our mistakes, and although we want to shield our children from every bad situation, this is the only way for them to learn. They must get it wrong the first time, so that they learn from their mistakes and figure out a way to do it better the second time round. After all, life is all about trial and error. It is a scary thing to watch your child walk off to the playground alone, to watch him or her fall down and get a ‘boubou’ and worst, to hide your fear of them getting hurt while helping you with the house chores. However, by experimenting, exploring and learning, they are learning life’s many lessons.

 

4) Let them dream

Children go through different phases of dreaming, and who knows where these ambitions and enthusiasm might take them? Be your child’s biggest fan. Cheer them on, even if you worry that they might fail in what they intend to do. Should they fail, you must continue to encourage them and support them by giving them alternatives to follow their dreams. Even when their dreams are not what you have always wanted for your children, you must let them have their own dream.

 

5) Teach them to stay positive

Make it your life’s mission to speak positively to your child. Similarly, you should always portray them in a positive light when you speak about them to others. Do not give them labels such as ‘my chubby girl’, ‘the lazy one’ or ‘the shy one’. If you praise your children’s efforts, perseverance and resilience, they will feel empowered to persist and pick themselves up whenever they stumble. Moreover, when they do make mistakes, always remind them that they are loved – no matter what.

 

6) Tell them they are worthy

As children become more exposed to technology, it is easy for them to want to copy others and to feel they are not loved, valued or accepted. Always reassure them of how much they are loved and appreciated by you and other members of the family. Help your children to recognise that no one is perfect and always remind them that they are enough, and you love them the way they are. Such reminders help them to stay confident and to overlook the negative attitudes of others towards them, either at school or on social media.

 

7) Remind them of the happy days and happy moments…

When times are hard, always look back to the little things that made you and your children happy. We are always so busy that we may overlook the little moments and small achievements in our children’s lives. Always take time to enjoy the little moments with them, to laugh over the little things, and to make memories with them. Do not be afraid to remind them of it by framing these memories and putting them on the wall, so that they are constantly reminded of the last family getaway or the recent birthday party. We must learn to appreciate the great things our children have done and look forward to many more happy moments.

 

Contributed by the National Council for Children (NCC)/Ministry of Family, Youth and Sports, Bel Eau, Mahé / Horizon Complex, Baie Ste Anne, Praslin Tel: 4283900 Email: yumarji@gov.sc

 

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